This post is an entry for the Indiblogger contest sponsored by the newly released book by Poonaam Uppal: Poonaam Uppal’s True Love – A Mystical True Love Story, for which the contest topic was “Yes or No to Pre-marital Sex?”
Interesting topic, I must admit. but, well, I don’t really have a strong and distinguished opinion on it as of now. If I could just end it in two words, I would just say “Whatever Works” instead of a “Yes” or a “No”. All that matters is the decision must be a well informed one. See that’s because I don’t think Pre-Marital Sex isn’t something to choose from being right or wrong. This clearly highlights one of my opinions that I don’t think its wrong. It depends upon a lot of factors situations and circumstances. I don’t think it’s unethical. I don’t think its unnatural, un-pure or anything. Another strong opinion I have is that the choice of this question should only lie in the hands of the couple. It should be spontaneous, natural, but not forced.
Now having said all that, I want to just mention some arguments which might lead to a decision of Pre-Marital Sex but are out of my understanding:-
- “Pre-Marital sex is the solution to control and minimize the sexual frustration in people (men).” Bullshit Alert
- “Having a sexual relationship is must to completely understand the other person. It would make things better.” I can’t comment on this as of now.
- “Pre-Marital Sex is okay, but I want a virgin after marriage.” Bullshit Alert
- “I am having second thoughts about our relationship, maybe having sex will clear things out. It will either make things strong or just break us apart.” Bullshit Alert
- “I want to experience a one-night stand.” Well, this one is tricky! If you find someone who also wants an experience, then it’s like Whatever Works 😀 The catch is both should know that.
- “Pre-Marital Sex will make me un-pure. I want to remain pure for my husband or wife.” Bullshit Alert
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very well presented! I am just not sure whether “I am having second thoughts about our relationship, maybe having sex will clear things out. It will either make things strong or just break us apart.” is completely bullshit. I mean, of course, having sex won’t clear out things but sometimes people do get confused about the authenticity/level of their relationship and they may think of using sex as a, umm, test or something? I don’t know if it’s right or wrong or whether it works or not, but I also don’t feel that this is entirely bullshit. To each his own, I guess.
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Okay, to be honest, for the argument “I am having second thoughts about our relationship, maybe having sex will clear things out. It will either make things strong or just break us apart.” I wanted to use a response something in between of “I am not sure, can’t comment on it as of now” and “Bullshit Alert”, but in the flow I guess I chose “Bullshit Alert” response because I was out of words. I actually can’t relate too much to it, so I guess using “Bullshit Alert” to that is also not a very firm and strong opinion wala response. But I get it, “to each his own”,that is the bigger picture I was anyways trying to present through “Whatever Works”.
Book milegi sabko yaar, to bas likh to diya, but otherwise I was still confused on how to present my views clearly 😀 I still am in the process of discovering and forming them. 😛
waise bhi door ki batein hai ye, sirf friendzone hi samjha hai abhi tak to 😛
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i think you hv presented a fair point of view, that’s why i said very well written/presented 🙂
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ha ha ha.. spot on on that bullshit alert.
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